I ordered a copy of Kenny Pugh's Can you do it standing up? Thank you Crowdtap for the giftcards and Mturk for the payments. He is one of the founders of Celibacy is Sexy (website and facebook page). I participated in to a twitter conference yesterday (#realmenwait). I also did a phone conference a few days ago.
Some of the things, I learned was:
- In a committed relationship (preferably marriage), we need to have a first to give to our spouse. With so many people having sex and doing whatever before marriage, it is harder to find a first to give to our spouses. Some firsts may include children or giving your all to a man or woman.
- Real men will wait on a woman. They will not pressure a woman into having sex before both parties are ready.
- Having sex does not solidify a committed relationship. Sex is just a part of it, but a relationship requires so much more.
- You can say no to someone wanting sex.
- Sex is a spiritual, physical, and mental connection.
- Sex does not equal love.
- Having sex with someone does not mean that person values you (or even wants to be in a relationship with you.
- You should think of every sex partner as someone, who may give you a baby or an std. Having sex is a risk and these risks can occur.
- Soul ties--you develop soul ties with every person you have sex with. The more you have sex with them, the stronger the soul tie--whether you know it or not.
- Sex is meant for marriage. Waiting will please God and strengthen your marriage
- Sex requires a lot of wisdom
- We need to focus on developing a strong relationship versus a sexual relationship
- Men and women are equally responsible for their sexual relationships
- Pugh challenged people to go a week without sex and chronicle their experiences
- Pugh also encouraged folks to keep a diary for the next month.