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Monday, December 16, 2013
Celibacy Diaries: The Interview Series Part 2 featuring Brian Apollo.
Celibacy Diaries: The Interview Series Part 2:
Interview with Brian Apollo
Name: Brian Apollo
City/State: Chicago, Illinois
Profession: School Psychologist, Author, Poet, and Youth Minister.
Part 2 of the Celibacy Diaries: Interview Series includes an interview with Brian Apollo, a 37 year old virgin, living in Chicago. Apollo chose to remain a virgin for spiritual reasons. I met Apollo through Alive Poets, a former weekly open Mic, on Yahoo Instant Messenger. We also met in person in Atlanta. Apollo is an inspiration to others and myself.
Brian’s parents raised him with strong Christian roots. His parents taught him sex belongs within the covenant of marriage. “If you love someone, you should give her something that no one has ever had and vice versa”
Being a virgin also has not stopped Apollo from dating. Apollo “is not looking for a girlfriend, I’m looking for a wife. If I can’t see myself spending my life with a woman, then why date?”
First, Apollo said temptations combine thought and imagination. “Thoughts and imaginations are uncontrollable. “ Next, “Temptations begin in the mind and as long as it doesn’t develop into actions, then I’m cool.”
Second, Apollo dealt with temptation strongly, when he attended prom. His girlfriend and him went out to eat, then came back to his house. “Both of us was dressed to impress and we all know that prom outfits leave nothing to the imagination. So we were staring at each other and before we knew it, we was kissing and touching. We were on the verge of going too far. I had a quick vision of myself in a casket. I believe that was God showing me my future and just as fast, I was turned off and scared. We both apologized and went home.”
Are certain sexual acts ok during virginity, celibacy, or abstinence?
“When is kissing not enough? When is petting not enough? How much petting will bring you to the point of no return? Plus in each one of those acts, are we truly thinking of the other person or are we so driven by emotions that we stop using logic (meaning there will be an end-result to all of these acts of passion…”
Tips for youth and adults, who are virgins?
“Life is better when you can enjoy it. No matter how cautious you are and how much birth control you use, sex is designed for procreation, not recreation. Eventually the human boy will do what it’s designed to do and your life, future, and soul, will be tied to the person, you had sex with. It’s better to wait until marriage because if you’re going to join your soul with someone, it may as well be with the person you’re having an everlasting commitment with. Aint nothing as unfair to your soul mate than to compare him/her with all the people you had before him/her.”
Final Thoughts: Encouraging the youth
“I would simply let them know God is real and everyone is accountable for what they do at the end. God is love, but when everything is said and done, when we stand in front of him, and the book of life is opened up...”