10 Tips for Maintaining sexual integrity Celibacy is sexy Weekly chat

These tips are not my own, but of Kenny Pugh and Celibacyissexy.weekly conference call.

• 10: Get Real. Recognize sexual temptation is unavoidable. commercials, songs, shows, movies, stimuli, etc.
• 9: get serious. sexual sin does not just affect you. it affects others connected to you. second looks and sexual conversations can plant a seed in your mind. every time we flirt or taking a second look, or having an impure conversation, we are planting a seed towards something unhealthy.  we can bring forth life, disease, and other things
• #8 get ready. come up with a plan of attack. what's your plan for avoidance? best defense is to be on the offense. what do u feel and don't feel comfortable with? what are the yield signs, which tell you to step away. how do you distract yourself?
• #7 get connected. sexual sin happens in the dark. admit problems to another person, whether fornication, masturbation, etc. confess your faults so you may be healed (james, the book of james). find someone who you trust. mature, christian friends. hold you accountable. get someone, who wont tell all your business
•  #6 get brutal. do not kid yourself. distance yourself from any personal thing, which will hinder your progress. make you unhealthy. operate with love, instead of lust. this may include movies, music, outings, that you do not need to indulge in.
•  #5 get help. may require specialized care. need to recognize problems which led you to sexual sin. sex is a behavior. but it should not be used to feel a certain kind of way. don't use sex to fill a void. or if you feel abandonment, fill something that is missing in your life.
•  #4 get comfortable. sexual temptation is not going anywhere. it's been a vice or hurdle since the beginning and will be here until Christ returns. be realistic and understanding that it will occur. just because you are married or will get married, doesn't mean you wont experience temptation. don't get married to say you got married. marry someone who demonstrates self control.
•  #3 get love. sex does not mean love. sex is an act, an experience. if you know you are loved, you won't be searching for it. find love through friendships and other things, besides sex. be honest and authentic. stop looking for love in all the wrong places. God is love.
•  #2 get grace. commit yourself to a direction, not perfect. admit when you make a mistake and move forward. understand grace but don't use grace as an excuse to fall.what determines success after a failure is to get self up, re-commit, admit mistakes, and continue to move forward.
• #1 get a life. if you are not enjoying your life, not pursuing your goals, not following God's purpose, you are setting yourself up for sexual sin. It's not just about keeping yourself pure, but knowing why you are pure. what's your purpose on being pure know who you are. don't focus on getting married and the next time you are going to have sex. if you do connect with someone, you may be connecting on faulty foundation. if your connection is not made better by someone coming into your life, then you need to step back and ask why are they in your life know where your head is and where your priorities are. make that the context to where you focus your sexual purity. have a goal-oriented path.